My impression is that most of these hullabaloos usually start when the offender fails to respond as the bully expects: praise wasn't sufficient, apology wasn't genuine/didn't occur, she failed to respond/appreciate me, something/someone wasn't noticed/acknowledged, etc.
Look, anyone in the wrong mood can overreact when someone looks sideways at them. We all get hurt and let our emotions take over. What we have to do is to generate a peer environment that doesn't tolerate retribution when this occurs.
I'm hoping more of us will ask the critical question when they see a friend winding out of control over a slight: "did you talk to her about it?"
Anti-bullying programs works in schools. They start by developing peer support for norms that let bystanders feel supported when they stand out against bullying behavior. Maybe we need to promote something like that in our hobby?
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Date: 2011-10-05 11:46 am (UTC)Look, anyone in the wrong mood can overreact when someone looks sideways at them. We all get hurt and let our emotions take over. What we have to do is to generate a peer environment that doesn't tolerate retribution when this occurs.
I'm hoping more of us will ask the critical question when they see a friend winding out of control over a slight: "did you talk to her about it?"
Anti-bullying programs works in schools. They start by developing peer support for norms that let bystanders feel supported when they stand out against bullying behavior. Maybe we need to promote something like that in our hobby?